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Your body language says just as much about what you want as your words do. Make sure that when you're talking with your girl that you keep your body language open and inviting.
If you're sitting down, point you knees and feet at her. If you're standing make sure to stand across from her or pivot your body toward her when talking in a group.
Don't cross your arms or put something physical — like a backpack or briefcase — between the two of you; these are examples of closed body language and may give the impression that you're not into her.
Another thing you should do to make sure you're giving her all the right vibes is to touch her. And no I don't mean inappropriately hopefully that'll come later.
When you're hanging out — whether you be at a bar or in private — try to make 3 points of contact. A few examples include reaching out to brush her hair away from her face, touching her hand, touching her shoulder or looping your arm with hers while walking. These points of contact should be affectionate without being overtly sexual, and purposeful. Accidentally brushing her hand with yours does not count.
I'm a believer that for some alcohol is certainly liquid courage. But I'm also an active believer that for most too much alcohol is fuel for stupid decisions. That being said, I'm not totally against drinking when trying to hookup. Sometimes a beer or two, or three is what you need to build the courage to talk to that girl at the bar or finally ask her if she wants to "get out of here". I am however against sloppy drunk hookups, especially when you're hooking up with someone for the first time.
Odds are you probably don't know them very well, or if you do, you don't know them sexually at all. Knowing and trusting someone even if it's only a little bit is important even when you're looking for a fling.
So stick to wine or beer if you can't trust yourself to go overboard on the liquor. Make sure you order a glass of water in between drinks and actually drink it.
Don't worry about looking like a square when watching how much you drink; you'll look mature, cool, and collected. The last thing you want to do is have one-too-many and completely ruin your chances with a girl. Next to humor, confidence is paramount when it comes to closing.
If you don't think you're capable of closing, you're probably not going to close. Feeling confident is something everyone has to work on. It's a total fake-it-till-you-make it scenario. Even if you're insecure, you need to put on a front that you're somewhat confident. This is why grooming is so important in the hooking up equation; because even if you don't feel like the most confident man in the room, dressing well will help you get there.
Plus, no well-groomed guy is going to look like they lack in self-esteem. However, there is a huge difference between acting confident and cocky. For some, it's hard to toe that line. So when you're speaking, have a filter.
Make sure that nothing coming out of your mouth sounds douchey and self-obsessed. This is why it's important for a lot of guys to watch how much they're drinking; for a good amount of guys they become more cocky with each drink. Believe me; I understand that you want to get laid.
I understand that if given the option, you'd probably want to get laid right here and right now. I understand how you might feel a sense of urgency, especially if you're in the midst of a particularly lengthy dry spell. And sex is fun. But no what's not fun? Feeling like you're getting pressured into sex. So… don't get pushy. It's not cute, and it will do nothing to get you laid. When it comes to flirting — especially when it comes to humor — it's very important to match her tone.
Let's say you have a very vulgar sense of humor and she isn't nearly as filthy as you. You're going to want to tone it down a little bit until your remarks clearly don't cause discomfort.
If you clearly make her uncomfortable with any of your jokes dirty, political, or otherwise apologize and change the topic. The same goes for being forward. You don't want to be overtly sexual with your comments and compliments if she's clearly not finding it flattering. There are ways to be forward without being explicit. That being said, there are girls who are sexual as fuck when it comes to flirting. If you find one of those girls, congrats. If they're willing to be outright freaky in the streets, she's probably just as freaky in the sheets.
Once things start getting hot and heavy, it might be difficult to figure out what to do next or how to far to go. Hooking up is a broad term. Hooking up could mean anything from getting to second base to doing anal… it just depends on your definition of the word which is important when it comes to the actual act of hooking up. Since people have different definitions of the word and have different ideas of how far they're willing to go based on the situation, hooking up is a total gray area.
So, when you're hooking up you're going to have to make a lot of sense of all the gray; you're going to have to figure out what's black and what's white. The obvious solution to this is to communicate.
Don't be shy about asking what she wants from you or how far she's willing to go. You might feel awkward about outright asking if she wants to have sex, but she'll be turned on by the fact that you actually asked. You should be golden so long as you're keeping everything safe and consensual as well as sexy, but here are a few Do's and Don'ts when it comes to dickin' her down. Girls come in all shapes and sizes, but this tip is for all my short girls out there.
Short girls never have to worry about being too tall for guys, but what they do have to worry about is being too short. So when you're making out with a shorty, make sure you're taking her height into consideration. While short girls won't mind getting with tall guys because every girl is into the tall, dark, and handsome type , they might regret their decision the next morning when their neck is completely stiff from making out standing up.
If you notice that she's craning her neck a little bit, lead her over to a couch or the bed to make your make-out sesh more comfortable. Remember those gray areas I mentioned? This is one of them. When you're hooking up with someone new, you should be very cautious about getting rough. Yes, most people have engaged in some kind of rough sex according to blank about blank percent , but for some people, it is not their cup of tea.
Before you go full on Fifty-Shades, test the waters. And by test the waters I mean barely dip your toe at first. Lightly scratch her back, barely pull her hair, or when you kiss her hold her by her chin. Don't full on dig your nails in, don't yank her hair back, and don't choke her right off the bat.
That's how you scare the shit out of someone who's vanilla as fuck. If you're trying to get freaky, test the waters or straight up ask her. But, speaking for experience, a freaky girl will probably feel more comfortably asking for what she wants. For some reason, women sometimes find it harder to communicate their needs in bed.
So, make sure that when you're hooking up ask what feels good. Usually you can base what's feeling good off of her physical reactions. For instance, if she's moaning or arching her back whatever you're doing probably feels good.
If she's not making any noise or pulling away from your motions, then whatever you're doing probably doesn't feel so great. If you can't figure out where she's at, then ask. Just by saying something like "Does that feel good, babe?
If you're attempting anything particularly acrobatic during a first or second hookup, then you're fucking up. Not only are you probably doing the aforementioned sex position wrong but you're putting future hookup opportunities at risk.
Crazy Kama Sutra positions are completely off limits for when you first start hooking up with someone. You should stick to basic positions think missionary and doggy when you start hooking up with someone.
Once you've established some trust, then put your life in their hands by attempting any wild sex positions. While you shouldn't try to twist your body into a pretzel while having sex with someone for the first — or second — time, you shouldn't just stick to missionary.
Think about how you can spice up basic or minimally physically demanding positions. Something as simple as raising her legs over your shoulders during missionary or pulling her upright during doggy to kiss her shows variation. Another pretty basic way to change it up is to throw a pillow under her back in missionary or under her knees in doggy to change the angle at which you're thrusting.
You can also fuck around the house. Don't just keep it on the bed. Bang on the floor. Bang on the couch. Bang in the kitchen. Just make sure your roommates aren't home…. Sex doesn't end when you cum. I'm going to say that again for the people in the back: Contrary to popular belief, the male orgasm does not signify the end of sex. For the love of god, please don't cum, roll over, and fall asleep. At the very least take a breather before continuing to work your lady over. Her pleasure is just as important as yours.
However, if she makes it clear that she's done but hasn't cum, that's okay too. Don't push your partner to cum if she's having a hard time getting there. The female orgasm can be elusive to most females themselves. So don't make them feel bad if they couldn't get there. And don't feel bad either. Having an orgasm hinges heavily on trust and feeling completely relaxed.
Both of those things usually come with hooking up a few times. Please don't leave her there coverd in your cum Get the girl a towel. Better yet, help the girl out. This should go without saying, yet here I am. So you got laid! Good for you, my dude! Now the key is to not act like a total weirdo now that you've banged this girl. Here are a few key steps to proper post-hookup etiquette:.
Gauging when you should leave can be difficult. There will be times where you should stay the night and when you shouldn't. Watch for key actions or phrases when making this decision. Has she rolled over and completely ignored you after sex? Has she mentioned several times that she has to get up early?
Has she straight up told you to leave? Call yourself an Uber and make your exit. If you do end up staying the night, try to wake up at a reasonable hour. There is nothing worse than having to wait for someone to wake up before going about your day.
And it's even more awkward when you have to try to wake them up. So don't be a dick and set an alarm for 8 or 9, depending on the day. If its a weekday, try to get out of there earlier than later. If you're at your place and she's overstaying her welcome.
Try not to be a dick, but get the girl out. The last thing you want is to resent the girl for spending the night when you have an early morning. Even if you don't want to talk to the girl again, at least shoot her a text saying that you had fun.
Unless something absolutely terrible happened, you shouldn't ghost. Not only is ghosting after sex rude, but it's also cowardly. You will lose her respect if you decide to disappear rather than telling her that you're not down to hang out again. You'll look like a total pussy in her eyes, and if you were to try to hookup with her again, you'd look like an even bigger loser. Don't ghost, even if you think that's the easy way out.
It's better to shut her down than to lead her on or offer her any false hope. You may have noticed an over-arching theme with the last two tips… which is not to be a dick. Even if she's clinging or if you don't want to hookup with her again, be polite.
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